[Sephie]

For those stating that being transgedered IRL without announcing it is deceitful. 1. It is sometimes suicidal to do so, and 2. From personal experience it is more deceitful to those who are truly attracted to you to be transgendered and keep in the closet.

Explanations:
1. Because I live in Houston, and in a particularly GLBT friendly part of Houston I can transition openly. In much of the United States that can and has gotten people killed. Furthermore those individuals who after transition admit to being transgendered are more likely to be killed by homophobes. Furthermore if you are attracted to someone ho appears to be a woman and you are not in a relationship with them, why do they have to reveal something traumatic and private about their past? If someone is dressed in tennis clothes do they have to announce that not only are they not a professional tennis player, but they cannot even play well as their arm was severely injured in a crash that killed their parents?

2. Personal story time: My ex dumped me for pretending to be a guy. Genetically I am male, but she felt like I was lying to her.

Long story short: Looks like a girl, thinks like a girl, talks like a girl, acts like a girl, it's a girl.