I think you're a 100% right ArcaneBEFan. There would need to be a lot of trust before you let someone tie you up or blindfold you. BDSM is all about trust, you should never give so much control to a partner you don't trust.
I think a story about a couple playing naughty, shrinking games can be very intimate and romantic for this reason.
Most of the time this isn't the case in SW stories though. A lot of stories are about someone shrinking against their will, be it accidental or cruel intentions. Being small in a big world and losing control are also common themes.
Cruelty is a major turn off for me as well, but some really enjoy this.
The SW crowd is a diverse bunch
