I feel guilty

[Jecilyn]

Originally Posted by Rachel Bronwyn

Whatever you do, do NOT engage this person in dialogue prior to dealing with leftover feelings from the relationship.

Being traumatised by having dated a trans-gal is a choice. There are many other ways to respond to the situation.

I'd never suggest someone deny their feelings. If a woman is uncomfortable with having dated a biological male who identified as female, they're entitled to that emotional response. It's their responsibility to examine why they feel that way though and deal with it.

All very very good points from Rachel. Remember, that you may have spent a while coming to terms with things, it doesn't mean they have. It can be as much a transition for the people around you as it can be for you. Especially if they have invested time and emotion into the 'you' they thought they knew.

Not everybody can cope with it, no matter how much they may want to.