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KermitYoung · 02-03-2015

My interest in tf does affect me on a daily basis, and it does affect my romantic life.
Though I've taken a little break from dating, whenever I eventually get into a new relationship I'm sure I'll mention my fetish to my new girl, when the time is right. I should mention that I've shared my fetish in the past with every woman I've dated; wonderfully, they were pretty accepting.

Also, here's a tip I've learned that I advise others take to heart:
when you share something that is deeply personal such as a fetish, don't explain it like you're ashamed of it, because people will react accordingly. If you tell your sweetheart your fetish with the attitude of "this fetish is the weirdest, most awful thing and I'm ashamed of it", then they will react the same way. If you instead show and explain your fetish in gentle, basic terms with a friendly, casual tone (as if it's no big deal, this is just what you like) then your lover will likely respond much kinder. Also, don't go straight for the hardcore when showing your girl/guy what your kink is. I'd recommend starting simple and gently working your way up.

For example, I personally have a thing for elaborate forced tf scenarios; there's one in particular I like that involves women in their 20s, 30s, and 40s being forced to turn into animal women via a government mandate. I totally recognize that that particular scenario is a little complicated and as such, I wouldn't open with that particular fantasy when explaining what kind of fantasies I like. Instead, I'd start small with something like, "you know honey, I think women transforming into cute animal girls is sexy", and then take it from there by showing her some tame images. After said girlfriend processed/reacted to my earlier statement and images, then I'd build my way up to explaining the more intricate ideas.

I know it seems like a no-brainer, but presentation is huge when it comes to stuff like this. Don't be ashamed, don't be overly eager, just be honest and put it out there in gentle terms and I think you'll be surprised.

02-03-2015	#26
KermitYoung Lurker Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 14	Re: Fetish My interest in tf does affect me on a daily basis, and it does affect my romantic life. Though I've taken a little break from dating, whenever I eventually get into a new relationship I'm sure I'll mention my fetish to my new girl, when the time is right. I should mention that I've shared my fetish in the past with every woman I've dated; wonderfully, they were pretty accepting. Also, here's a tip I've learned that I advise others take to heart: when you share something that is deeply personal such as a fetish, don't explain it like you're ashamed of it, because people will react accordingly. If you tell your sweetheart your fetish with the attitude of "this fetish is the weirdest, most awful thing and I'm ashamed of it", then they will react the same way. If you instead show and explain your fetish in gentle, basic terms with a friendly, casual tone (as if it's no big deal, this is just what you like) then your lover will likely respond much kinder. Also, don't go straight for the hardcore when showing your girl/guy what your kink is. I'd recommend starting simple and gently working your way up. For example, I personally have a thing for elaborate forced tf scenarios; there's one in particular I like that involves women in their 20s, 30s, and 40s being forced to turn into animal women via a government mandate. I totally recognize that that particular scenario is a little complicated and as such, I wouldn't open with that particular fantasy when explaining what kind of fantasies I like. Instead, I'd start small with something like, "you know honey, I think women transforming into cute animal girls is sexy", and then take it from there by showing her some tame images. After said girlfriend processed/reacted to my earlier statement and images, then I'd build my way up to explaining the more intricate ideas. I know it seems like a no-brainer, but presentation is huge when it comes to stuff like this. Don't be ashamed, don't be overly eager, just be honest and put it out there in gentle terms and I think you'll be surprised.